“Happiness is not a destination. It is a method of life.” ~Burton Hills
Regardless of your circumstances in life, the pursuit of happiness is something everyone strives for. If we are fortunate enough to be relatively healthy and whole, we are very lucky in comparison to people who have to live with less on a daily basis. Often time’s, people with a disability are seen as less than a whole person when nothing could be further from the truth. The disabled come with limitations that vary widely and are they are equally important parts of society, just like the non-disabled community. Disabled people often deal with more challenges than the rest of us, but largely their lives mirror the lives of the majority.
Most disabilities still allow people to be independent and lead happy and fulfilling lives. But independent living when disabled requires choices and the ability to manage everyday life activities which many of us take for granted. Not everyone can take care of themselves independently with their disabilities, but that shouldn’t keep these people from seeking fulfillment either.
The level of help or accommodations the disabled will need to function at their highest level varies. For some, using mobility equipment allows them to drive or catch buses, attend school, or even work like ordinary people despite their impairments. Obviously, people with more severe disabilities may require much more assistance that limits independence.
Independence, choice, and control of one’s own future are all very important for disabled people, like the rest of us. The disabled want to choose their support, equipment and health services which will help them get to independent living. Most disabled have the same hopes and dreams as the rest of us. Disabled people have as good a shot as anyone to live a happy and independent life. Support groups offer great help and mentorship from other people who have been in the same situation. Most people will benefit from advice from other people who have already ‘been down the same road.’ Learning how to cope with change and their new reality is a critical lesson for the newly disabled.
Disability comes in many different forms; some are more visible than others. Hundreds of medical issues, both physical & mental problems can lead to debilitating limitations that make a person disabled. Illness like Crohn’s disease or mental illness aren’t necessarily visible to the general public, yet these conditions can impose extreme challenges similar to a disabled person who is obviously mobility impaired. Regardless of the level of limitations, there is hope in every day. To keep a positive outlook on life it’s important for the individual suffering to know they are not alone.
Obstacles are part of life for everyone; happiness shouldn’t be elusive because you are suffering in some new way. Find someone to talk to who has your same condition who has overcome adversity in their own life. Keep people with a positive attitude close by, a good attitude can be contagious. Remember, life isn’t a dress rehearsal, seize the day!
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